One of the most important things when buying jewelry for a woman is to remember that even if you think you know her, and I don't care if you've been married 50 years or that you've played together in the sandbox, you still only THINK you know her!
Consider this did you ever looked at a necklace or a ring you like and she said "wow this is nice, I like that", and you thought "well we got a similar taste". This statement was a mistake, cause you can't assume you both liked the same features of that necklace or whatever.
It seems like men are more attracted to the gem and how fancy or expensive it looked, similarly you can find the same thing that you like something based on it's price tag. While women like it based on how well it would fit them or how it will suite their personal outfits, they imagine how they would wear it and with what dress. If and only if it seemed to fit in their mind, according to their specific taste and other things like if they saw someone wear it lately, or if it will look more unique then something their friends wore etc.
When you think like that then you see why it's impossible to determine what she will like or what will surprise her or any other things you imagine you can figure out about her, because she herself doesn't even know if she like it in that specific moment and it can (and will) change every moment.
Hell it seems like my head is going to explode even when I try thinking like that, I think every guy out there would bang his head against the wall when he starts to consider all this small and annoying variables.
I've met women who said they liked this king of a precious stone, let's say Ruby for example because it's red and they liked the color, it fitted their sweater or emphasized their hair. While saying they hated pearl earrings because it so lame and so over rated and such.
A week after you would see them wearing pearl earring with proud and showing off how well it suits their make up, and when you'll try and give them a nice ruby necklace they will be (not act) surprise as to why would you even think they like ruby. "Everyone knows ruby don't go well with any outfit". So then you go back to the jewelery store an beg them to take it back or give you something else with a pearl in it (because you've just seen they wore it), you get a "well here we got a beautiful pearl necklace that is very popular among many of our clients".
You think to yourself "this time she will have to like it!", and instead of her saying that it really suites her pearl earrings, she is angry at you cause you go and buy things without asking her if she like it and that she already have a pearls so she don't won't to wear it also as a necklace.
Go figure..
So pearl earrings, diamond earring or ruby earrings?
Well I wish I could have said I got the magic answer of what to buy or how to guesstimate what she would like, but it's change with every woman and whatever happened to her all her life and what she is thinking in that particular time when you give her you precious gift.
I can only suggest that you kind of prepare her for your present, maybe fluff her a bit so she will be in a good mood. You can do whatever you think will set the mood right, and when she is in a good mood it will be harder (though not impossible) to get angry or unsatisfied.
Another trick is to be apologetic in advance, tell her you really try hard to figure what she likes.
I'm not saying you should lie!!
Women are a great lie detectors, I'm saying to tell her the truth. Tell her exactly how hard you worked to find the right earrings and the right size. Be very detailed and don't just cut your words short, it's crucial that she will understand that this is a very important thing for you!
You can always think of what she said recently regarding jewlrey or how she notice different pendants on other women, this could hint on what capture her eyes and attention. Though it's can be a tedious job and could turn out as a big waste of time, still I think that if you love her and put in the time it will help.
Have you ever tried asking?
Many would dismissed that and i can see you already shaking your head, but you really have to try and ask.
I don't mean to ask upfront and ruined the surprise, instead be a bit more clever and creative. You could tell her what your friend bought for his wife and she how she reacts, but please for god's sake hide it in a story and don't just tell her that cause she will figure out your intentions and if not she will ask you about it and you'll have to chase the cat to give you your tongue back..
So tell a story that the motive and main point is way different, more interesting and capture the attention than what you are trying to say.
Don't worry about if she'll miss it, trust me she will not miss it, these things are important to women and will catch her attention as soon as you say it. When she does notice, she'll say something which is when you'll need to be very attentive.
This is where she'll tell you what kind of precious stone she like or a kind of jewelery that caught her eye the other day..
listen carefully to what she say and keep notes in your head, there is nothing better than liking something and getting it in after a few days as a surprise gift.
This is way more surprising when diamonds or other gems are involved!
So till next time,
Bruce.
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